WOW! So validating to read this story and the posts. When I tell people this stuff about my husband, even therapists, they assume I’m exagerating when, in fact, if anything, I’m holding some of the worst things back! But here you all are writing about MY EXACT HUSBAND! Married 25 years; he’s 65, and just when I think we’ve hit bottom, that this marriage can’t be any more hellish, either he does some other even more horrid thing than before, or I FIND OUT about something even more dispicable that he’s been doing. So awful; hedonistic, manipulative, sadistic, greedy, nasty, lying old pervert!